Respect

As a father, I also have a strong need that he must respect me.

Respect me for being a different, more involved father (I would like to believe so), respect me for being kind and understanding towards him.

But if (I feel) he doesn't respect me, I become withdrawn and vindictive & cruel. Basically the complete opposite of what I want him to respect me for.

As if, by punishing him, I will be able to force him to be respectful for how I would have liked to be.